The Man I Will Marry...

.....Was on TV last night!

Check it out - I edited this to exactly his scene. Look for his handsome, hand-crafted afro-puff (courtesy of moi!). I'm so proud of him.... I could just burst!



Its fascinating, how accomplishments for one of us, become pride-filled events for both of us. It reminds me that relationships (and especially marriage), are a melding of much more than hearts, homes, families and material belongings. They are a merging of the spirit, of identity, of intention and soul. When he succeeds, I succeed. When I am raised up by joy, he feels is just as strongly. Or in times of disappointment, we share the burden equally.

We brave forth into the world for common goals, and even if we shared little interest in each other's passions - we'd still be equally invested in their outcome together. It somehow goes beyond teamwork, in my mind. Actually, there are times I find myself more inclined to help him than myself, and I've seen the same in him. The selflessness that love inspires.... its just plain fabulous.

It reminds me of two things:

"I am my beloved's and my beloved is mine." - Song of Solomon

"May you always need one another - not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete; the valley does not make the mountain less, but more; and the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it.
So let it be with you and you.
May you need one another, but not out of weakness.
May you want one another, but not out of lack.
May you entice one another, but not compel one another.
May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another."
-exerpt from Blessing for a Marriage by James Dillet Freeman (read at MaPo's wedding last week)

So, today, I am celebrating this victory for him, for me, and for us. Cheers, to love and afros, y'all!

PS: Thanks so much for all the warm wishes to Paco. He's doing much better!

PPS: I got an email from Sadie, who is fighting to win her own green wedding contest. Please take a minute to vote for her & Josh here.